Why a Teacher May Seem Rude Without Intending to Be So

Teaching is a profession that often requires patience, empathy, and understanding. However, there can be instances where teachers are perceived as rude when they are not. This article explores the common reasons behind such perceptions, focusing on cultural differences and the varying expectations in different teaching settings.

Cultural Differences and Teaching Methodologies

The teaching profession in various parts of the world incorporates distinct methodologies and cultural norms. These differences can sometimes lead to misunderstandings or even perceived rudeness from students and colleagues.

Why You Might Perceive Your Teacher as Rude

One of the key reasons why a teacher might seem rude is the cultural expectation of not being in a position of legitimate authority over their students. In many cultures, particularly in countries like Thailand, there is a traditional respect for authority figures, which can manifest differently than in more egalitarian societies.

Engaging with Students in a Thai Classroom

Example 1: Student Communication - During a teaching seminar in Thailand, I would often ask a participant a direct question expecting some form of response, either 'I don't know,' or 'I am not clear.' However, in some Thai cultures, it is considered a loss of face to answer incorrectly or express a lack of understanding. Therefore, a student might look down or away silently, which could be misinterpreted as rudeness.

Example 2: Cultural Etiquette at Social Events

Example 2: Social Gatherings - In another instance, a group of Thai ESL teachers invited four foreign teachers to dinner as a token of appreciation. They placed the foreign teachers at one end of the table, while the teachers from Thailand sat at the other end. My colleagues were furious, assuming this was a sign of disrespect, but the reality was quite different. The Thai teachers felt it would be insincere to sit close to the foreign teachers during what they perceived as a private gathering. This act was seen as a gesture of deference and respect.

Overcoming Misunderstandings in Teacher Training Seminars

As a teacher trainer, my role is to facilitate understanding and adaptability in the classroom. Here are some strategies to navigate these cultural differences:

1. Emphasize Cultural Sensitivity

It is crucial to emphasize the importance of cultural sensitivity in teacher training seminars. Teachers should be aware that different cultures have unique ways of showing respect and delegating authority.

2. Encourage Open Communication

Encourage open and honest communication between teachers and students. Create a safe space where students feel comfortable expressing their thoughts and concerns without fear of losing face or being judged.

3. Respect Diverse Perspectives

Respect the diverse perspectives and norms brought into the classroom. This includes recognizing that there are valid reasons behind seemingly 'rude' behavior that may not align with one's personal cultural norms.

Conclusion

Understanding and embracing cultural differences can greatly enhance the teaching and learning process. By fostering a more inclusive and respectful environment, both teachers and students can benefit from a deeper level of comprehension and mutual respect. It is essential to approach these differences with patience and an open mind, recognizing that every individual and culture has its unique set of norms and values.