Understanding Self Harm: A Dialogue Between Generation and Guardians

Self harm is a complex issue that often triggers misunderstandings between young individuals and their parents. This article aims to shed light on the nature of self-harm, provide resources for addressing the issue, and highlight how to communicate effectively with those who may not fully grasp the gravity of the situation.

The Nature of Self Harm: Not Just Attention Seeking

Self harm is often misunderstood as attention seeking. However, it is more accurately characterized as a dangerous form of self-medication used to relieve intense emotional or physical pain. Unlike the temporary relief it provides, self harm can lead to serious and long-lasting consequences. It is important to educate ourselves with reliable sources of information to understand this complex behavior. True learning comes from scientific research and professional guidance. Many young people turn to self harm as a way to cope with stress, but as this method does not address underlying issues, the pain often returns.

Breaking Down Misunderstandings: Education and Professional Help

Parents and guardians are often uninformed about mental health issues, and self harm is no exception. Many people hold misconceptions and stereotypes about mental health. For instance, they might think that being very neat equates to OCD, being hyper means someone has ADHD, or that people with schizophrenia are “crazy.” In the case of self harm, there is a prevalent belief that it is an attention-seeking behavior that leads to suicide. While it is true that some individuals who self harm may experience suicidal thoughts, this is not always the case. Many self harmers are simply dealing with overwhelming emotions and lack the means to address them constructively.

A Personal Journey of Self Harm: Insights from a Mexican-American Perspective

My journey with self harm began in the 7th grade, and I am now a sophomore in high school. My Mexican parents have always struggled to understand mental health, and they often advise to “stop worrying” about everything. However, mental health issues require more than just emotional support; they demand professional intervention. I started self-harming because certain feelings were lessened temporarily, providing a fleeting relief from intense emotions. Keeping this secret, however, was not an attempt to seek attention. The pressure to achieve academic excellence was immense, and self harm became a form of escape from this stress. However, any relief was only temporary, and the cycle continued.

How to Communicate About Self Harm to Parents

It is crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your parents about self harm. Here are some steps you can take:

Tell a School Professional: If you are in school, you can confide in a school counselor or psychologist. They are trained to provide the necessary support and can help facilitate a conversation with your parents. Seek a General Practitioner: Discussing self harm with a GP can lead to a referral to a mental health professional who can provide the needed guidance and treatments. Written Communication: Writing a heartfelt letter to your parents or discussing the issue with a trusted family member who can then communicate with your parents on your behalf may be an effective approach. Medical Interventions: If you see a doctor, they are legally obligated to inform your parents about your health condition and may refer you to a therapist or a hospital.

While these steps may feel daunting, the most important thing is that you seek the necessary help. Self harm is not a healthy coping mechanism, and it can lead to more problems. Consider reaching out to the self harm hotline as a resource; I have found them helpful in the past.

Conclusion

Self harm is a serious issue that requires attention and support. By educating yourself and your loved ones about mental health, you can foster a supportive environment for both parties. Remember, seeking professional help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Here’s to a brighter and healthier future for all those affected by self harm.