The Dynamics of Friendship: Who Boosts Us and Who We Should Avoid

These days, I find myself retreating to my own thoughts. However, it is the friends who bring out the best in me. They understand and empathize with the struggles and losses I've faced, and are always by my side, no matter what. Every day, I avoid certain types of individuals—bullies, narcissists, drug addicts, and even ex-cons. In truth, even when I'm struggling with my bipolar disorder and PTSD, some friends help me more than others.

Defining True Friendship

Friendship is more than just an online connection or a brief conversation. Understanding what a true friend is can help you navigate social relationships effectively. People who simply like or follow you on social media are not necessarily friends. Neither are those you meet briefly and then never see again. True friends:

Care about you and you care about them Adhere to their promises Support you both in good and bad times Have a deep emotional connection, even if they are not seen frequently Provide the same level of support and compassion as you do for them

Friends are a precious gift, and it's vital to cherish them. Be discerning about who you consider a friend, and you'll build stronger relationships and a more fulfilling life.

Challenging and Constructive Friendships

Friends who push you towards a better version of yourself are invaluable. They expect the best from you without being overly negative or judgmental. Instead, they inspire you to grow. Conversely, friends who constantly sabotage you or bring you down can stifle your growth. However, there's a caution to this; the victimhood culture can sometimes misinterpret healthy, constructive criticism as hate.

The over-exaggerated fear of discomfort and pain during the growth process can turn even the most loving and positive feedback into a perceived attack. This victimhood mindset is often a psychological parasite that consumes energy meant for self-improvement. On the other hand, perceived enemies can sometimes provide stark insights about exploitable weaknesses, aiding self-improvement.

Engaging with such people, even from where they once loathed you, can help you identify areas for growth. This can ultimately make you a more resilient and independent individual, capable of handling feedback and self-criticism without running for cover.

Conclusion

Building and maintaining friendships can be a complex process, but it's worth the effort. Be mindful of who you consider a friend, and strive to avoid toxic influences. Remember, friends are not just social companions but true partners in your journey to self-improvement and resilience.