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On Respect for Military Rank and Its Personal Consequences
On Respect for Military Rank and Its Personal Consequences
It is often quite a challenge for military families when dealing with civilians, especially when the spouse is a member of the military. A recent incident highlighted the importance of respecting military rank and the challenges faced when someone misuses this privilege.
The Incident
I recall a specific instance that occurred when I was working at a civilian establishment on a military base in Oak Harbor, Washington. A woman entered demanding special treatment, resorting to raising her voice and making an insistent list of demands. Her justification was striking: 'My husband is a pilot, so you must comply with my requests.'
The Response
Her rudeness and arrogance were palpable. I calmly listened, but her final words were the trigger. 'My husband is a pilot, so you have to do this for me,' she repeated. At this juncture, I intervened firmly, making it clear that no one should abuse a military rank for personal gain. Here is an excerpt of our conversation:
"I told her that the only thing I had to do for her was to tell her to get the fuck out. How dare she use her husband's rank to gain special privileges over others, who hold no position of power, authority, or rank. How dare she embarrass her husband by acting like a spoiled brat and throwing HIS rank around. One that HE worked hard to earn!"
She was crimson with a mix of anger and embarrassment. After she left, the customers who overheard offered their support and gratitude. Two pilots even thanked me, knowing her husband personally, and promised to inform him of the situation.
Reflections and Implications
Military service is not a endorsements for personal privilege. Service members earn their ranks through rigorous training, hard work, and dedication. Consequently, it is both disrespectful and discreditable to use their achievements for personal gain. It is about personal accountability and self-respect. She should have been encouraged, not enabled, to work towards her own achievements, only then would she deserve and earn the respect that comes with military rank.
Being proud of a spouse's achievements is noble, but it's important to recognize that these achievements are personal and do not entitle an individual to unearned benefits or privileges. It is a fundamental baseline for upholding integrity and respect within the community.
The military family culture places a high value on honor, duty, and respect. Misusing these principles can lead to serious consequences, not only for the individual but also for the community.
In conclusion, it is crucial to recognize and respect the hard-earned military rank and the sacrifices made by service members. Misusing this privilege can have negative societal impacts and undermine the foundational values of the community.