Navigating Relationships: Why I Stay Single and What I'm Looking For

Life can be a mysterious journey, filled with unexpected twists and turns. Many seek their life partners, believing that the right person will appear like magic. However, the journey to find that special someone often involves personal choices, challenges, and a deeper understanding of oneself.

Why I Stay Single

Once upon a time, I too, searched high and low for what I wanted, but it was always out of stock. The things I didn’t want seemed to follow me around like a lost puppy, while the things I truly desired were always in someone else’s possession. It felt like everything I sought came with an expiration date or a hefty price tag. In the marketplace of love, the best deals were always just out of reach.

Despite these challenges, I kept browsing, holding onto hope that the perfect match would magically appear in my cart. However, the reality is that finding that perfect person is not as simple as waiting for it to fall from the heavens. Sometimes, it requires a deliberate search, a willingness to understand oneself, and a confident belief in the journey.

Privacy and Past Relationships

Because of past experiences, like the time I threw my ex-girlfriend out, I value privacy highly. The realization that people can be hurt in the name of so-called love has made me trust my own choices and boundaries. Never date someone because you feel sorry for them. Instead, honor yourself and ensure that any relationship you enter into is rooted in mutual respect and understanding. I will always love my ex-girlfriend as I have known her for 40 years, but trust and respect now take precedence over past feelings.

The Complexity of Relationships

Building a relationship is a significant undertaking, not just for one person, but for both. It requires effort, patience, and a commitment to understanding and appreciating each other's needs and desires. I enjoy relationships—just not my own. I embrace the drama and romance, but not when it involves me. The reason for my single status is quite practical, I think. Sometimes, people get in and out of relationships as if it were a game, which undoubtedly takes a toll on their mental peace.

I have witnessed the superficial nature of some people's relationships and found it rebellious to follow the same trend. Relationships are best when they are a true partnership, where both individuals grow together and add value to each other's lives. At the moment, I am not ready to reach that level of commitment and vulnerability. I am not a very trusting person, and this realization has guided my approach to dating and relationships.

Conclusion

Being single can be a choice, a phase, or a result of personal and practical considerations. Whether you are someone who stays single by choice or finds it challenging to connect, it is essential to understand your reasons and maintain a healthy perspective on love and relationships. Finding the right balance between trust, commitment, and personal boundaries is key to navigating the complex world of love successfully.