High School Reunions: Worth the Trip for Those Who Were Not the Prom King or Queen?

Considering going to a high school reunion, especially when you were not popular in school or feel like you are not remembered fondly by old classmates? This article delves into the reasons why attending a reunion might be beneficial despite initial hesitations.

Personal Experience

Some might argue that such a gathering could be too awkward and unnecessary, particularly for those who were not particularly popular in high school. In my case, I would only consider going if I knew I would bump into at least one person with whom I can establish a connection. Pairing up to tackle the opportunity together can make the experience more comfortable and enjoyable. However, if the people involved are unimportant to you, I wouldn't waste your time there.

On the other hand, if you were somewhat famous or felt you might represent something important, it would be a different story. But let's keep the focus on more common scenarios.

Benefits of Attending Reunions

Even if you weren't friends in school and didn't keep in touch after graduation, going to a high school reunion can still offer numerous benefits. You have the chance to share memories of your growing up years, reminiscing about your school and community. These memories can be a source of joy and a way to reconnect with parts of your past that can bring you happiness.

Overcoming Negative Attitudes

Others might dismiss the idea, suggesting that the gathering will likely be filled with self-aggrandizing and gossip-filled interactions. People who gave you a hard time during high school are likely still there, possibly even worse than before. However, this attitude is shortsighted and unfair to potential positive outcomes. Growing up and maturing does not mean that everyone changes for the better, but it also doesn't mean that nothing has changed for the worse.

Building Expectations and Engaging

What if everyone at the reunion is still the same? Well, not necessarily. People, and even groups, can evolve in unexpected ways. At my last high school reunion, I was approached by people I had never really known before, and they expressed a genuine interest in connecting. If you have matured since high school, why wouldn't you expect others to have done the same?

Approach the event with the mindset that others will be cordial if not friendly. Greet others with a simple ‘Hi, how are you?’ and be ready to introduce yourself and engage in conversation if you recall anything relevant. You might be surprised by their reactions.

Embrace the Journey

If they don't recognize you or don't remember you, feel free to inform them. If you approach the reunion with an open and positive mindset, you might uncover unexpected connections and conversations. Remember, you are not obligated to do something you truly don't care to do. Focus on your well-being and happiness.

Do you have any ties to old classmates or fond memories of your school years? Then, it could be worth your time and energy to attend. But if you're not excited about it, there is no shame in deciding not to go. After all, you're in control of your time and your life. Share your experiences and how the event turned out with us in the comments below!